Decide To Love Something

I think people worry too much about loving their current situation.

I know I do.

“I’m not where I want to be. Dating who  I want to be. Having the money I wish I had. The physique I want to have. The strength I want to have” yadda yadda.

Loving the process is key. So you need to decide to love your current scenario. Because most likely if you do not… even if you do reach your goals, you probably will be miserable anyway. Look at how many depressed celebrities exist. If you are never satisfied, can never find love in your current scenario, you’ll never be happy.

Find the balance of loving your current scenario while being uncomfortable enough to continue to grow.

You grow from the process and the love will grow with it.

Uncomfortable Conversations

Tim Ferriss says something like, “A person’s success can be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have”.

When looking internally you can see why this is true.

You don’t get the date with the girl unless you ask.

You don’t get the sale if you are too afraid to ask for the business.

You don’t get the job if you don’t apply.

You don’t say no to things you should if you are too afraid.

You don’t take advantage of new possibilities if you are too afraid to say you failed.

Anxiety, embarrassment, and fear…..feelings that suck. Can be powerful when taken advantage of and channeled correctly. and the feeling sucks less and less as you get more comfortable being uncomfortable.

You have to be able to handle these uncomfortable conversations and feelings in order to grow.

Trying Things Out

Kate Spade was tired of her job and her husband said “you like handbags, why not that?”

She made 6 designs, made them out of burlap, just tucked away in a corner of a trade show and just went for it.

She just tried it out. And it happened.

For every great idea you’ll have one hundred dumb ones.

One will stick eventually.

I’m speaking from observation not personal experience… but the Kate Spade example is just one of many.

Air BNB, Lululemon, Jet, larabar, home depot, 1 800 got junk,  Clif Bar the list goes on.

( I conveniently can list them off because the creators were all interviewed on the podcast “How I Built This” which is an awesome awesome awesome podcast. Its so cool to hear how ordinary people build extraordinary things but just trying )

That’s why people like James Altucher create habits like 10 ideas a day. Keep making ideas and trying. Something will happen.

Most recent dumb idea of mine… Crazy pool floats. Kegs, Dragons, Marijuana/joints, clouds, Elephants etc. Things people want to take pictures of and post on Instagram.

You may be thinking oh I’ve seen unicorns, that already exists. Unicorns and rainbow floats exist but not a pool float that resembles a Bentley. Ideas can be built upon, so don’t be afraid to “copy”.

Try it out.

2nd Best Isn’t Bad

A coffee shop opened up a block from Starbucks in Newtown.

I loved it from the beginning. I always picture myself being the owner and starting out, so I felt need to stop in as much as I could.

Biz was slow… ( so it seemed at least )

But…

One day I walked in and literally couldn’t find a seat. Not one!

Turns out Starbucks closed, for an entire month, for renovations.

Traffic continued to pour in and they gained traction.

As the Starbucks re-opened I’m sure the explosion leveled off but I am also sure they gained some loyal customers they did not have before.

So seemingly, opening up a coffee shop across from Starbucks may be bad but…

Maybe being second best isn’t that bad.

What else could this apply to?

 

 

 

Stake Your Claim

Your own experiences have value.

You’re probably a mini-expert on some subject.

Share your thoughts!

Growth occurs from like minded people feeding off of one another.

Maybe you’ll enrich someone or vice versa.

There needs to be some form of collaboration but in order to do so , you need to get started and stake your claim!

 

 

Finding Your Confidence

I’m not a particularly confident person. So I’m writing about confidence.

Besides sheer arrogance, Confidence builds with 3 things.

Knowledge.

Improvement.

and Fearing Less.

Knowledge (Expertise). Notice how confidently professors speak when giving a lecture? Your favorite YouTuber speaks on their niche HOW-TO video? A karate instructor teaching a form to a class?

Talk to anyone passionate about anything.

They have spent so much time refining their craft they can confidently speak in front of anyone, forever. They’re in their element. So If you want to be a more confident salesman, become an expert. Talk to an expert salesman, study sales tactics, and practice.  Study the craft and the confidence will grow.

Improvement. Just get better at something. Anything. Progress builds confidence. Pick something you suck at, start at the bottom and get better. Seeing progress first hand will make you , I’t will in return build confidence.

Fearing less. Think about when in your life you were most fearless?

Fearless in action, maybe not so much in character.

Most likely, it was when you were a kid. When I was a kid I’d climb trees, jump out. Rode bikes and jumped ramps. Don’t get me wrong I was no dare devil. I was actually more of a timid push over. But at the same time, I was more confident in ways then I am now.

Back then you didn’t think about any real repercussions. Now I look at jumping out of a tree as a quick way to hurt my knees maybe worse. Back then that wasn’t even a consideration.

You know what else is a consideration that I fear just as much as physical pain, if not more? What other people think. Caring about what other people would think is the most significant way to limit yourself.

Tap into that childhood confidence. Don’t think of the repercussions and most importantly don’t think about what others will think.